I Hate My Dad

[Snow]

My dad he just freaks out over these little things.
Like today for example he put a litle too much soda in my cup so I tried to put it back in the bottle and he freaked out.

"NO YOUR GOING TO PUT SODA ON THE TABLE!!!!!!!!!"

"No, I'm not." I said.

"Fine you do it but if you get ONE drop to come off you will clean the whole entire table. THE WHOLE ENTIRE TABLE!!!!!!"

So I put the soda back in the bottle and he hangs over me desperately trying to find a drop for me to miss. But of course I don't.

"YOU JUST GOT LUCKY!" he said.

So really just to him off I do it again. Then we get into a fight and I get grounded.


I really wish my Dad did suicide. Yes I know many people will tell me how wrong and horrible and blah, blah, blah it is. I know, but I still wish he was out of my life forever! Again I know it is wrong but GOD he just ticks me off. I can't even count how many times I've been grounded.

I'm just so SICK of this. I am sick of my dad overreacting and us fighting about crap. Me and my talk have said this to each other for a LONG time.

"Dad quit overreacting!"
"I AM NOT OVERREACTING!!!!!!!!!!"

My Dad has said a few times these past few years that he wants our relationship to be better. He does this "new erea" crap. But he acts like I'M the only one that has to change. I admit I should treat my dad differently but OHH!!!! I just hate him! I hate him more then ANYTHING in the world. I remember my Dad left for one Summer and Oh how I remember that so well. When I had my friends over and he wasn't there to bug me. Happiest moments of my life without my Dad. I have never felt sad when I watch a movie or hear a story in real life about the kid's dad dieing. Never. What I think is lucky. I am aware that many of you will think I'm some bratty kid but you know that? I guess I sorta am. But this is how I truly and sincerely feel. And NOTHING can change that.

Hate is a strong word I know but I very strongly hate my Dad. If some of you heard the other stories of my Dad... God you'd understand more. But I will just be talking about how him getting angry over these little things. Like not letting me go out to use his camrea so I can record videos for Youtube. When HE is the only one that has broken the camrea when he goes out. Or accidently slamming the microwave. I HATE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!
For the 3rd time I know it is wrong but I need to let this all out.
Even though it's pretty unhealthy to do it online. I can't do it in real life.

When I calmly told my Dad of what I feel about him he grounded him. OH GOD now I'm getting all of these terrible memories of when I was little of how he screwed up my childhood. I am now crying as I type this. He is really the worst thing in my life. I swear every bad thing about me comes from my Dad's genes. My mom is so nice. GOD DAD!!!!!

Oh and about my Mom. She usually just sits back and ignores what my Dad does to me. Even though she KNOWS how horrible the things are but she does nothing and my Mom is gone for a month this summer to visit her home.

Why can't my Dad go to another Country. Waaah! No my dad is not on drugs or anything. He just stays at home really just trying to ruin my life cuz he has none of his own. Really I have switched websties several times because my Dad keeps on walking behind the laptop. My Dad thinks I dont notice. God he's stupid!!!!!! You know what I think? I think HE had a terrible childhood and is trying to make me have the same fate. Well it sure worked!
I hate my life and I don't think suicide would the worst thing to happen in my life! I can't wiat till I'm 18 but I'm also scared. What if I don't get a job? What if I have to stay home until I'm 40 just like my cousin. -_- I just WISH I could report him to the law or something but he is doing nothing illegal. He can legally ruin my childhood but God I HATE IT!!!!!!

PLEASE DIE DAD!!!! I know you all probably think I'M overreacting to this. But God if you guys lived my life you'd understand. I wasn't allowed to play outside like the other kids. No. I just had to stay inside. Stay quiet. Get punished from my Dad over and over.

I just wish there was something I could do but I know there isn't.

I could really easily rant about this forever but I guess I will end it here.

I'm probably just an ungreatfull kid to you guys.

I probably made tons of typos on this. IDC.

Alright I'm calmed down now. I'm just still being hurt so much emotionally now.

-_-

Bye I guess.

[kogeck]

Honestly, you post about 2 threads about your dad in a month. Think of it this way. Do you really think that your life is bad compared to some other people out there?
We all wish for someone to die in out lives, and to wish for your father to die is unfathomable. Despite your relationship with him, you'll regret wishing for him to die. In fact, you're the one who's overreacting here. If what your father did is genuine, then I can truthfully say that I know where you get it from.

[iTsAmy94]

I think that's emotional abuse, emotional abuse is where a adult/parent abuses their child emotionally. Like telling them they can't do anything good and stuff like that.
My dad is like that, I cry too sometimes. He apologizes later but continues another time, he gets on my nerves. Sometimes when my leg hurts, and he wants me to get something for him I say no and he starts cursing at me sometimes. I don't tell anyone, I sometimes blackmail him threatening to contact the police for a joke and for him to stop yelling at me. He has issues, but he's not on drugs.
I know how you feel.

[guamdude]

My dad left my family when I was 3. He came back when I was 9. The reason? Meth. But by God's grace he came back. Maybe your dad has psychological disorders. Maybe bipolar disorder or something. Parents are not like that for no reason at all. As for your situation, I will pray for you, but just hang in there, because it could be worse dude.

[Mr. PiE]

Don't worry, my Dad is the same, I'm sure he can be ok, sometimes! Because my Dad is. If you stay strong, or just tell him about your feelings, he may understand. To be honest, my Dads parents, were REALLY, strict to him, and thats why he tells me of alot. But, sometimes, hes really nice, so stay strong. If he tells you of, just don't fight back, just live with it, you'll be moving out in 5 years minimum. Basially do this,
"Why, did you put the sprinklers on, when I said not to."
"Oh, whoops, that was a mistake, sorry Dad, I'll make up for it!"
Then, in time, your relationship will build stronger!

(Sorry for the rubbish example :rolleyes:)

[Guardian Ou]

Don't wish suicide on anyone. I don't think you understand the concept of death.

Suppose your wish came true and tomorrow your father died. In the long run, you'd only blame yourself and you would want to apologize to him, but it would be too late.

Honestly, I know where you are coming from. Sometimes I feel the same, but life is a fragile thing. Your father is trying to raise you the only way he knows how.
Sit down and talk with him. If he refuses to listen, then force him.

[Jeebus]

You should tell your guidance counselor or something at school. Your dad might ruin your life but don't wish for him to die. If he did die, you'd regret it for your entire life. Just do stuff for him without him asking like cleaning up after dinner and doing dishes and stuff. That might help. Also, your dad might have some sort of mental problem. Ask your mom if he does. And does he treat anyone else in the house like he treats you?

[flippysam]

You are really overreacting, this is just parents being annoying which happens to everyone, I don't think you hate your Dad, I think you hate it when he overeacts, my Mum is annoying, and I used to hate her, but I had a good reason since she used to hit me when I was little if I was bad, I just ignore her now since I fell out with her over that but this is nothing compared to what other people go through.

It's not really a good time to post about it when your mad, you should give it a couple hours and you will probably calm down and realise it's not that big a deal, and as Spem said you probably don't really wish he would commit suicide, your just mad at the minute.

[sonic30132]

You would wish suicide upon your father? How about getting in a car wreck and dying. Have you tried talking to your mom? What does she say?

[Bill Rimers]

Well geez if you just do what he asks, then it wouldn't be that bad.
"Don't poor the soda back in the bottle"
"NO IM GOING TO DISOBEY YOU JUST TO SHOW YOU THAT YOU ARE WRONG"
"Since you disobeyed, you are grounded."

Ta-da. Kinda see what happened?

[Chandru]

All this wouldn't have happened if you had just taken the right amount of soda.

[Makarov]

Sorry, but I feel you overreacted about the soda thing. It was a little more than you wanted, so just drink it later.

[Wanted Penguin]

i don't know if this would work but try talking to your dad in a calm voice. if he freaks out over something then respond calmly with "dad, please calm down, you don't have to yell at me" or something similar. just act really nicely to him and try to make him look like a big jerk, maybe he'll catch on.

[Snow]

Honestly, you post about 2 threads about your dad in a month. Think of it this way. Do you really think that your life is bad compared to some other people out there?
We all wish for someone to die in out lives, and to wish for your father to die is unfathomable. Despite your relationship with him, you'll regret wishing for him to die. In fact, you're the one who's overreacting here. If what your father did is genuine, then I can truthfully say that I know where you get it from.

No, I do not. It was just my unhealthy way of venting,

All this wouldn't have happened if you had just taken the right amount of soda.

its not just about the soda it is EVERYTHING

i don't know if this would work but try talking to your dad in a calm voice. if he freaks out over something then respond calmly with "dad, please calm down, you don't have to yell at me" or something similar. just act really nicely to him and try to make him look like a big jerk, maybe he'll catch on.

I've tried it so many times he just says "Don't tell ME to calm DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

[Chandru]

No, I do not. It was just my unhealthy way of venting,



its not just about the soda it is EVERYTHING



I've tried it so many times he just says "Don't tell ME to calm DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

I'm sure that there are ways to deal with this without wishing death on him.

[Agent Pointy]

My father does that as well, he'll shout at me, and I'll shout back, then he'll be all like "DON'T SHOUT AT ME. I'M NOT SHOUTING. WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?" but, I still love him, and would be devastated if he died.

I think the problem is that your from two different times, when he was a kid he was probably taught to be 'seen and not heard' or something like that, and doesn't know any other way.

I do stuff like that as well, just to annoy him, but, your dad seems to reacact more, so I wouldn't reccomend it.

What I would reccomend is that you talk to both your parents at the same time, calmly and seriously, to show that your mature enough to think for yourself, and explain how you feel and such.

[worldking01]

My dad is an alcoholic, but I still love him. For the longest time he used to beat on me. That was until I got bigger then him, haha. You shouldn't wish anyone to die. It is a horrible thing. I know I sometimes with people would die, but that stopped when he really did die. Instead of dying, don't you just wish they would move or get out of your life? He may be mean and stuff, but he is the only dad you have in this world, and so you should respect that.

[jackowackow]

if my dad did that. i would,nt want him to die i would just forget about it soon.

[Snow]

My dad is an alcoholic, but I still love him. For the longest time he used to beat on me. That was until I got bigger then him, haha. You shouldn't wish anyone to die. It is a horrible thing. I know I sometimes with people would die, but that stopped when he really did die. Instead of dying, don't you just wish they would move or get out of your life? He may be mean and stuff, but he is the only dad you have in this world, and so you should respect that.


I know it is wrong and a sick thing to wish Death on my Dad. I know. But it is how a truly feel.

[Chandru]

I know it is wrong and a sick thing to wish Death on my Dad. I know. But it is how a truly feel.
Imagine if he died. You'd feel devestated because of the loss.

[Snow]

Imagine if he died. You'd feel devestated because of the loss.

I have serious doubts that I would feel that way.

[PoRyGoN-Z]

I have serious doubts that I would feel that way.
You never truly know until it happens... my dad died when I was 4... he died of Colon cancer... I wish I could of spent more time with him...

[Chandru]

I have serious doubts that I would feel that way.

Are you saying that you would never want to apologize to him?

[Me Da Queen]

Sometimes you should be thankful that you have a father.

I, tbh, have never met my father.
I grew up knowing a man who I thought was my father,
really wasnt until I was in 4th grade.

My mom was engaged to this one guy, not too long ago, and he was a total *beep* to me.
He was always mean to me for nothing I did; he slapped me and cussed at me.

Sometimes it's better with not having a father figure in your life.
sometimes it's better having one.

[Snow]

Are you saying that you would never want to apologize to him?

I will say sorry and all but I don't think I would truly feel that way.

[Ziek]

My dad and I don't get along either. But maybe that is just because I have grown up watching him and my mother bicker. When I became a teenager, we just drifted apart. I understand how you get a lot of traits from him. I do as well. My dad and my mom are complete opposites. My dad is over protective and up tight about things. He just bothers me, every word he says sends a stinging hate down my spine.

He acts like a completely different person when my mom isn't around. And surprisingly, nicer. That is why I sometimes wish they would divorce to make them happier.

The point is, you should all have a 'meeting' and just talk about things. Find an activity you both can do that won't cause you guys to argue. My dad and I play basketball every day, just a game of Horse, and it has helped me to bond with him.

[Big Moose]

I have serious doubts that I would feel that way.

You don't know what you have until its gone.. Keep that in mind..

[Billboard]

Snow, sometimes focusing on the bad of a particular subject can make it seem worse. I bet if you would start saying things like, ''my dad loves me'' or ''my dad is a good guy'', it would make you stop focusing on the bad things about him. No parent is perfect. Ofcourse, we all know that. I bet if you would tell your dad that he can be a bit harsh ''In a respectful way'', he may respond in a nice way. If not, you tried but you never know.

Best of luck.